I remember fixating near the close of my second pregnancy on whether or not I would be able to love  both our children 'equally'.

Thankfully over time I realized this was not an issue and what became clear to me also was that my original concern was more whether or not I could balance both their needs, all the time, meeting them fully as opposed to being concerned about whether or not I could love them individually in an 'equal' quotient of the time.

This anxiety vexed me significantly when I was suffering with it which is why I feel the subtlety of difference between the two ideas is worth discussing.

Pam Leo, author at the Natural Child Project blog writes on this topic in a post titled Love Enough For Two.